“Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.”
I used to belong to a lot of online forums, but as of late I only belong to one. I have a lot of respect in the people on this forum, as well as those who run it. However, lately, the tension is so thick I have found myself rarely visiting. The forum managers pride themselves on having an “open” and “encouraging discussions that oppose views” (as long as it doesn’t cross the personal attack threshold. This is one reason I really am fond of this forum. As I am very opinionated, however, I try to be diplomatic in delivering my view points. I am a person with different thoughts, opinions and actions. I pride myself on being an “out of the box” thinker.
Recently, a post was sent out about “Drama, in all its forms, will not be accepted.” Here’s my question, when does opinions begin to constitute “drama”? The only thing I can determine is when the opinion is varying of those who run the forum. Take example a statement that I left on a post regarding another “project” like my 365 Gratitude. The manager has created a similar idea, concept and site surrounding her venture into personal growth. All I said was “Hmm… interesting, it’s very similar to my gratitude project.” Little did I know it was going to create a negative volley of opinions. I personally do not see drama in my statement, it was only a statement observing the similarities.
So again, I want to know when does an opposing opinion become drama? Isn’t that what the forum is encouraging; varying views and discussions that follow? It only becomes drama when someone is hurt, or if the intent was to stir up hurt. I did neither of these, and, in the long run I was hurt. It feels as though those I had become rather close to, on the forum and in life, have pulled back somewhat. I do not feel that I can post without someone raising an eyebrow and crying wolf. I am stubborn, Taurus through and through, and I refuse to bend to appease others. I am content with my opinions, however, I am not so inept to the point where I cannot hear others views and discuss them. I firmly believe that “drama” starts when communication breaks down.
You can only empower drama by what you put into it. Opinions, are not drama. I have begun to feel that unless you carry the same view as those running this forum, and you caudal and encourage the behaviors, you will not be accepted. I feel pushed out and unwanted. In that, I feel a sense of loss. I have pulled away from those I respect and care about.
Today, I am thankful for the ability to think, have opinions, express them and communicate in a healthy manner.