I had an uncomfortable experience this morning. I guess I shouldn’t say “uncomfortable” as much as it was eye opening. Let me preface the rant incoming by saying that I received Woman Marine of the Year (back in the day) because of all the efforts I put into community service; including volunteering with the homeless. I do have compassion towards those without means, and try to give when I can. However, with that said, I over heard something today that really kind of set me wrong.
I stepped off the bus on 3rd and Union in Seattle, and made my merry way to the crosswalk when I noticed a homeless man holding a sign; this is a common sight to see in and around the downtown Seattle area. Standing at the crosswalk waiting for my turn another homeless man walked up to the other, who was standing right near me, and said “Got money comin’ in today… dem folks’ payday.”
I understand the need to survive, trust me I get it. However, it’s rather insulting that even the homeless know our paydays, and look forward to us contributing to the plight in which they live. There are so many more services for them, but I honestly think a lot of that culture it comes down to laziness; too lazy to seek out the assistance there is out there. It angers me as well. When I was laid off, we were financially tight. There weren’t as many services to help the Average American who was screwed out of jobs because of the governmental business decisions going on around us.
However, when I was laid off and financially tight, I still found ways to help out. “Every act of compassion counts.” I just feel a huge let down, and a bit used, when it comes to that compassion. How can you have compassion without expectations? I know that this is directly apart of the Buddhist Four Nobles.. and one of the hardest to obtain.
You know my love of the Tiny Buddha Site:
Tiny Buddha : Compassion without Expectations
Some benefits of unselfish giving
Here are some ways that unselfish giving can have a beneficial effect on you.
1. Giving feels satisfying. When you give without wanting anything in return it opens up your heart to an enhanced sense of peace, love and joy.
2. Giving stimulates gratitude. Giving without expectation will elevate your personal awareness of others. As a result, you will feel increasing levels of compassion and gratitude.
3. Giving attracts giving. What we put into the world has a powerful influence on what we receive. This is part of that giant feedback loop I mentioned. The energy of giving has a very positive influence on how you experience your world.
4. Giving makes you aware of limiting beliefs. When limiting beliefs like selfishness and greed become exposed to your conscious awareness, then you can work on letting them go. If you are unaware of their existence, they remain active in your subconscious. If they continue unchecked, you may wind up attracting the exact opposite of what you intended.