“If you do not have the capacity to love yourself, then there is simply no basis on which to build a sense of caring toward others.” –The Dalai Lama
(5/6/2009) – Pardon me while I resurrect some old posts.
Loving yourself, for who you truly are, is so hard in this society; especially when you have continual flashes of who and how you’re supposed to be. Television, radio, books, magazines, classmates, peers, friends, and family all tell you their ideals of what you should look like, or how you should behave. All the while, inside, you’re trying to figure out who you are and where you fit into this god forsaken world.
Loving yourself can start with shutting off the clattering of opinions around you. Then taking a step to see someone, unbiased, to talk to and help you work through the areas of confusion, anger, fear and frustration. Once you get a sense and hold on who you are, and how very important you are on this planet JUST AS YOU ARE, then caring and compassion for others follows ten fold.
You are loved just as you are; repeat that to yourself often.
You are here, in the manner in which is best in your maker’s eyes.
You are a phenomenal being, don’t forget.
Love, is in you and around you, embrace it. Stop comparing yourself to others around you; just be you. Others who are meaningful, and needed in your life, are those who see you for whom you really are, and love you unconditionally. Keep those in your life, let the opinionators fall behind you.